Transcript from counselling session
(Name changed keeping client’s confidentiality in mind)
Amee is a 33 year old self employed woman whose health is getting affected duet to her anger towards her mother in law’s interfering behaviour regarding disciplining here daughter.
(T) – So Amee Let’s understand while talking about the connection between your thoughts and your emotions, can you think of any time this week when you were really angry with your mother in law.
(C) – Yes definitely. It was this Tuesday, I was talking to my daughter disciplining her regarding her studies and her behaviour towards it, then again as usual my mother in law interrupted me and took my daughter away. This made me really angry.
(T) – And what was your feeling at that time?
(C) – I felt quite angry and quite helpless at her behaviour.
(T) – And what was going through your mind?
(C) – I don’t like anyone’s interference.
Okay, you have just identified what we call an automatic thought. These thoughts come to your mind without any effort on your part. Let’s question the validity of this thought.
The Therapist works through the CBT process as follows:
Step 1: “Automatic thought identification” Together the therapist and client identity clients “Automatic thought as “I don’t like anyone’s interference.”
Step 2 : Is about questioning he validity of the “Automatic thought”
(T) – Amee tell me, what is the effect of believing that “I don’t like anyone’s interference”
(C) -Well, it really infuriates me, I feel so helpless, it puts me in a really bad mood.
(T) – Okay, Now I’d would just like you to think for a moment what could be the effect if you changed the way of thinking.
(C) -You mean if I didn’t think that “I don’t like anyone’s interference”.
(T) – Yes
(C) – I would be a lot happier and more patient.
(step 3) Challenging Core beliefs: –
(T) – Amee, I would like you to read through the list of common false beliefs and tell me if any of these beliefs hold true for you.
(C) -(Reads list) yes, I so relate to the belief number 2, that’s so true for me.
(T) – The reason they are called “false beliefs” is because we view the world in extremes, that is either black or white and there is no other shade in between.
Applying NLP as therapy in Amee’s case (neurolinguistics program) using perceptual positions (one of the tools of NLP)
(T) – Amee I would like you to recall the whole incident once again, as if you are associated with the event.
(T) – Now Amee, get the whole feel of the event, your thought, your body movement, your tone of voice and look at the other person whom you are angry with.
(T) – Now Disassociate yourself from the event and see yourself, seeing yourself with your mother-in-law.
(T) – Observe both of them, what are you observing about each of them. Get then understanding of both people.
(T) – Now look at your mother in law. Observe her, her body movements, facial expressions and step into her and totally become her, feel what she’s doing and understand the situation from her point of view.
Once the client is able to get a broader understanding of the situation, the level of anger automatically comes down.
The above case is a small glimpse of how the counselling sessions are conducted.